Personal Development – It’s in your control!

Personal Development

There is nothing more motivating than seeing yourself get better! It doesn’t matter what you do, personal development is crucial in any industry, sport, career or activity you undertake. The results you achieve are key to development. Results don’t just produce results, they also produce motivation, confidence, and belief!
Even when you go to the gym. At first it is a struggle, but then you start seeing results i.e weight loss, muscle gain or cardiovascular fitness! And once you start seeing the results, you get more motivated.
The key to getting better results is personal development. If you continue to focus on yourself on a daily basis and continue to develop yourself, not only will your personal life get better but so will your professional life, as well as the people around you that you influence. In turn this means more income and a better lifestyle!
And the best part about focusing on yourself on a daily basis is that you don’t have to make drastic changes. Even if you made small disciplines i.e if you want to lose weight, instead of picking up a chocolate bar, pick up an apple. Or instead of watching TV in the evening, go for a walk around the block. You see, making small changes like these aren’t drastic, they’re manageable plus they can be applied to your personal and professional life! But it will send your life in the right direction You find a lot of people decide they want to change something, so they go all out and try to commit to large changes like eating vegetables only, when they love meat, or going to the gym 6 days a week when they never used to go. Inevitably, those changes only last for a week or two until they go back to their old habits!
The first point to personal development is giving up your “blame list” – we have all done it – we have all, at some point, produced a long list of reasons as to why we aren’t in the position we want to be in. Here are a few to mention:
  1. I don’t know
  2. I don’t have enough money
  3. My boss is rubbish
  4. I’m sick
  5. I’m tired
  6. I can’t
  7. The government
  8. Taxes
  9. I don’t get paid enough
  10. Bad luck
There are many problems with this list, which I will evaluate further along in this post! The reality of it is this list should contain only one thing! The only reason why you are in the position you are in is because of the following:
  1. YOU!!!!!
The reason why you can only blame yourself is because you then have all of the control. If you start blaming other people or other circumstances, you have lost control. For example…
I run a sales and marketing company, like any business, there are highs and there are lows. The funny thing about success is when people find it, they take all the credit. However, if they ever go through tough times, people are quick to blame something else and pass the responsibility away from them. The way I see it, if you are willing to take the praise during the good times, you’d best be willing to take the responsibility during the tough times.
So when my business is on a massive run, I sure do take all the praise, however if we ever go through a tough time, I’m always looking at what I CAN DO to improve the business. I never pass responsibility, I never blame anyone, I never blame circumstances. I always blame ME!
The reason why I always blame myself is because I always want to have control of my situation. The moment I blame someone or something else, I am relying on that person or that thing to make the change (it is no longer within my control). If I want the people to change, then I take responsibility and say “I need to teach these people.”
I never ever wish my situation was easier, I always wish for more skills – This is something I learnt from the late Jim Rohn.
The best thing about personal development is it allows you to get better. I am pretty new to writing blogs, and I am not ashamed to admit I am probably not the best blogger out there. I am also not going to get upset about it and start blaming my lack of skill. I will continue to write blogs so I can get better!
The key part to personal development is giving up your blame list. If you continue to only blame yourself, it will force you to get better. So, the next time you are in a situation you don’t want to be in, throw away your blame list, write your name on it – and force yourself to learn the necessary skills you need to get better.

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