People often get confused when they are advised to find a mentor. I personally have many mentors that I use on a regular basis. Some in a physical form and some from text books.
The first part to finding a mentor is to decide what lifestyle you want and then find someone who has already achieved that lifestyle.
This was something I lacked before running my business. I was working in a lab before hand, just working to pay the bills. My boss didn’t inspire me, and as nice as he was – I definitely didn’t want to be in his position. I was struggling to motivate myself each day because I had no vision or example of where I wanted to be.
It wasn’t until I came across a business owner that I was inspired to achieve success. The moment I met this person, I was instantly drawn to him and was fascinated with how he got the position he did.
I loved the clothes he wore, I loved his image, I loved his apartment and his general lifestyle – it seemed as though he had a lot of control on his life.
I always wanted to run a business, and here was a person who had already achieved that. It only made sense to get his information and apply it myself.
I have had many different mentors during my career, and they have all been at different levels. Prior to running my business, I had no experience in sales. Therefore my first goal was to find a mentor who was great at face to face selling.
Once I achieved success in selling, my next goal was to learn how to lead people – therefore I found a mentor who was leading a large team of people.
Once I mastered those skills, my next goal was to find a mentor who ran a successful business and learn from them!
I am always looking to learn – and I am always learning from people who are better than me. At first, yeah talking to strangers and asking for information is strange and uncomfortable. But here’s a tip – asking someone for information rubs there ego in completely the right way! People love sharing their knowledge. I love sharing my knowledge – that’s why I write these blogs. A good mentality to have when seeking a mentor and asking them questions is the ‘Dr.Pepper’ mentality – What’s the worst that can happen! The way I see it is, I would rather ask for information and get rejected than not try at all.
You see, if you retreat from networking, you are giving yourself a 0% chance of getting that information – which in turn could be catastrophic to your development, your future and your families future!
A great example is school – I was a terrible student at school, not in terms of behaviour, but in terms of seeking information. I was always scared of asking a “stupid question”. Looking back on things now, if there’s a question you don’t know the answer to, it is crucial to get the answer in order for you to develop yourself. If it is important to you to get the information – don’t worry about anyone else!
Mentors don’t even have to be people – they can be books. The way I see it is all authors are at the top of their field, and they are providing their brain for just a few quid! They are examples of what you want to achieve, so why not use them!
In fact, here are some books I have read that helped me on my journey;
- Rich Dad, Poor Dad, Robert Kiyosaki
- 21 Irrefutable laws of leadership – John Maxwell
- Who moved my cheese – Dr Spencer Johnson
- The book of Leadership – Anthony Gell
- The 10X Rule – Grant Cardone (AN ABSOLUTE MUST READ)
- Sell or be sold –Grant Cardone
- Any book written by Jim Rohn
All of these books are great, no matter what industry you are in.
So go out there, decide the lifestyle you want, and commit to learning that lifestyle by using as many mentors as possible. And remember – BREAK OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE.