Who you spend your time with in life is crucial to what you become. As humans, we are always being influenced, but the direction you are influenced in is so important.
Everyone is given a clean slate in life, but it is important we keep that slate clean throughout life!
You are influenced at a very young age. Let’s start at school. You always see sporty people spending time with sporty people. Bullies always spend time with bullies, “geeks” always spend time with “geeks”. This is true to adult life as well. You always see certain types of people spend time with each other. You never see a homeless person chilling with a rich person. But at some point in both of their lives, they were on the same level surely?? What was the difference? who they have been influenced by.
You often here people say “I wasn’t brought up in wealth” or “that person is more fortunate then me” – to a certain extent, this may be true – but Bill Gates put it perfectly – “It is not your fault if you are born poor, but it is definitely your fault if you stay poor.” In fact, a lot of successful people weren’t born into riches and were in fact born into a non privileged life!
What you need to do is adopt the mentality of someone who has achieved what you want to achieve. Success isn’t a one off thing, it has been achieved time and time again by so many different types of people. If you want to achieve success, it is imperative that you listen to the people who have achieved what you desire.
To work out if your circle of influence is going in the right direction, there is a simple task you should complete:
-Write down a yearly financial goal or even a lifestyle you would like to achieve
-Write down the names of 6 people who you spend the most time with on a day to day basis.
-Next to their name, write down their income
-Add the incomes up
-Divide them by 6
This will give you the value of money you are/will make. If you want to earn more, simply increase your level of influence.
Why is this important?
Because you learn every day. Both consciously and subconsciously. I am a firm believer in “It’s not what happens to you that determines whether you are successful, but it is what you do!” A successful person will handle the same negative as an unsuccessful person in a completely different way. A successful person’s attitude towards life is completely different to an unsuccessful person and you need to be exposed to the right examples.
An unsuccessful person will make excuses as to why they aren’t in the position they want to be in (government, taxes, boss, etc.) – how can another human being experience the same negatives but achieve a completely different lifestyle? They focus on what they can control rather than what they can’t!
Parents that smoke, are likely to teach their kids to smoke. Friends that do drugs are likely to influence friends to do drugs. Now I know why my parents always made an effort to keep me away from the bullies and the kids who smoked at school. Although I didn’t like it at the time and it forced me to “feel sorry for myself”, they always said “Matt, one day you will thank me.” They taught me the lesson to be influenced by the right people.
Make sure your information is coming from the right source. A lot of the time, people will offer you advice on something they have absolutely no idea about. They will knock you down! they will tell you you are working too hard. Next time someone tries to stop you from doing something – take 2 seconds and ask yourself…are they in the position I want to be in? Have they achieved what I want to achieve? If they aren’t or haven’t DON’T LISTEN TO THEM!
Keep your dreams alive by listening to those who have achieved their own dreams.